Hey loves! Welcome to part two of the Five Friends You Shouldn't Have Part 2. I am here to throw more shade, lol.
Today I'm gonna talk about the Negative Nancy.
I believe that this is the most toxic friend types of them all because this isn't one that can be identified easily.
This friend type is carries the kind of negativity that wouldn't be noticed until months or years later down the line of friendship.
This is the person that always points out the negative side of situations. It can show itself in many different ways from simply replying negatively to a situation, to good news, or basically anything you might bring to them. If you have found yourself withdrawing from a certain friend because of their negative responses to your personal life. It can become an overwhelming drag, but it won't stop there. It can even be simple comments and 'opinions.' Excepts, if their opinions are always laced with something negative, then that just means that person is bitter.
(SN: This person can easily be combined with the Complainer personality. It's their nature to have negative comments towards everything and everyone off bat.)
I have a couple of friends that are like this. As a matter of fact, one of them is one of my best friends. I don't really bring anything personal to her anymore because I tend to either feel hurt, pissed or both after talking to her about whatever the subject is. And yes, there are times where I will need someone to piss me off or hurt my feelings for me to snap back to reality, but in her case, it was never needed in that way.
I love her to death, but whenever it comes to the choices I make or any situation I may have, she's not the person to go to. And I've accepted that and moved on, because she doesn't HAVE to be that person. Just as much as I shouldn't have to be the one questioning who I am based off the negative comments of someone who claims they love me.
And I believe that's the best way to deal with those people; to either:
1)be careful with what information you bring to them. Don't give them the opportunity to 'negative-talk' you out of who you are, your life choices, etc.
2) Remove them from your life, period. And I only advise this option if the person is extreme with their toxicity. Not only to you, but to people around you. Keep an eye out for that as well.
And last but not least, if you do decide to stay friends with these kind, do NOT be afraid to pull back and get in touch with yourself for a while. Just like it's easy to get caught up with the positive community around you, it's even easier to give into the negative.
Remember, you come first.